Happiness is a Skill – Personal Development

Marketing Fuel recently attended a self-improvement course with the Waikato Chamber of Commerce that was run by Sue Kohn-Taylor. Sue is a personal development and wellbeing coach that helps to elevate your personal and business performance, something that every person, from all walks of life can benefit from.

Happiness is a Skill was the name of our first session so we weren’t too sure what to expect, but we very soon realised we were going to love these sessions by Sue. We thought we’d share with you the things that really stuck with us in a quick blog post!

First of all, it’s important to note that happiness is a skill, so like any skill you can get better at it (whew!).

So here goes: how to be happy?!?

If you are struggling with a bit of unhappiness, or find that things are frustrating you at work or in your personal life, write down all of the things you feel unhappy about, all the things that are frustrating you…sound pretty counterproductive? Like where am I going with this? Just trust me.

Your list could look a little bit like this

  1. My workmate X is annoying
  2. I am stressed about work-life balance
  3. I don’t feel listened to

This list is your triggers. After writing these triggers down, identify the things you can and can’t change. Single them out. Now what to do with those nasty little triggers?

  1. You will most likely find that a lot of those triggers are not in your control, which is important to note! You are not responsible for someone else’s happiness, you can’t change them, but you can change how you react to those triggers.
  2. Change your view and make a conscious effort to start appreciating the little things in life such as the first cup of coffee in the morning, the seasons change, your fur babies (or human babies). Count your blessings! We have so much to be grateful for and it can be easy to miss or forget about these simple things in our everyday life that bring us joy.
  3. “Take action” of your life and always be in the driver seat of your life. Never rely on other people to drive you to A to B, take control and take ownership. It is up to you to identify your triggers and it is up to you how you react to those triggers.
  4. Last but not least…stop comparing, this is a big one! I have learned not to compare your every day behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlights. We love Social Media as it gives us the opportunity to connect with you all! But it’s all about balance and sometimes it’s also nice to turn off all the noise and focus on yourself. Just remember, no one is perfect no matter how they display themselves online.

These tips and tools listed above are just a few things to help – give them a go and work out what works best for you.

Here are some instant happiness booster tips for you:

  • Take breaks away from your desk – go for a walk inhale some fresh air, we promise you will return to your desk/workplace with more energy and a happier outlook on all those emails in your inbox…
  • Giving to other people – it seriously feels so good to make someone’s day, today I dare you to buy your colleague a coffee or smile at a stranger. Making other people happy will hit you back right away!
  • If you are feeling sad, don’t withdrawal – make an effort to stop focusing on the people that do not like you and focus on the people that love you.
  • Exercise – even if you manage to walk around the block, anything to just do YOU for a little while…oh, and leave your phone at home.
  • Hug – yes maybe not strangers…I mean sure you go girl haha but hugging your partner, best friend, mum, siblings is the best. And too often we forget to really appreciate these things in a busy schedule.
  • Music – we don’t know about you but we need music in our lives. Listening to our fav tunes whilst we work on your website or social media is a Marketing Fuel fav – music helps us get in our best creative zone!
  • Gratitude Rock – carry a rock in your pocket and whenever you touch it count your blessings – you will soon be showered in more things to be grateful for.
  • Self-care – you can’t pour from an empty cup!

Chances are, most of us have heard these tools and tricks before, but sometimes being reminded of them is exactly what’s needed to work them back into your life. See what works for you and let us know how you get on! Do you have something else that works for you that we haven’t mentioned? Let us know.

Lastly: Remember that for every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness, and we just can’t have that!

A little bit about Sue Kohn-Taylor :

Sue has been coaching and mentoring for over 20 years and is the Co-Founder of ‘Open the Door’ which is a personal development app helping us to find a deeper understanding of ourselves.
You can check the app out here www.openthedoor.com and more about Sue here www.suekohn-taylor.com

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